Death By Romy
My name is Romy, Romy Flores to be exact.
What’s your profession / line of work / passion?
I’m a singer and a rapper and the only way I'm making money right now is through my modeling, but hopefully it's going to be my music real soon.
Where are you originally from?
Mid-City LA actually, I'm born and raised right off Washington and Crenshaw.
Are you still there?
Ya my whole life, all 18 years.
What's your heritage?
I'm half Mexican and half European.
When did your interest and love of MMA begin?
I wish I could tell you why i’m dark as fuck, but I was born this way and I've always had a really dark sense of humor. I’ve been into horror films since I was a small child and I don't know why. I've always been interested in murders and murderers and I can't tell you why to be honest. I think they're fascinating. To me weapons are super cool but I have no desire to hurt anybody, I think they're tight. Boxing is the most fun workout. I only just got into that but it's dope as fuck, nothing has ever made me want to work out more than boxing.
Is it more of an outlet for you?
It is an outlet and it’s a whole body workout too which you wouldn’t expect. You have to duck and shit so you feel it in your ass, legs, arms, stomach, and everything.
When it comes to your work, what primes you to be in a flow state? What elements do you need to do your best work?
With my music I used to only write alone in my room or come up with ideas whenever I was alone. But now I'm inspired by everything that surrounds me honestly, I feel like I can write a song anywhere I go and I'll get inspiration. Say that green tape over there, I’ll start thinking of green glass windows and shit and I just come up with anything anywhere I go. I've gotten really comfortable in my body and I feel like I can create everywhere I go.
Do you think that constitutes you to be able to make good decisions? When you find that moment, you're able to zone in and execute?
If I come up with an idea, say right now when I’m sitting with you I’ll be like hold up, I have a song idea and I’ll put it in my phone and save it for later and then I can go back and write a song about it or go back and have that as an idea for a freestyle.
Do you have principles that you guide your life by?
I always trust my gut, my mom always taught me to follow my heart. I trust myself more than anyone always. If someone tells me that they don't think something would be good for me that I disagree with, I'll usually try to argue that and just go for it myself. I kind of had an issue with authority but it's not as big of an issue now. I also believe in prayer. I don't believe in any sort of religion or anything. I was actually converted to Buddhism when I was 9 years old on my own, I was the only one in my family and that shit still gets me, I follow those beliefs. I don't practice regularly but, I like to live the Buddhist lifestyle.
Do you meditate?
I do, I practice transcendental meditation and I chant as well. Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo, it's a Buddhist chant and it’s to bring you whatever you want in life, to bring in the energy you desire. I believe in witchcraft as well.
It seems that you have a strong mental property, you’re really positive and you really truly believe in yourself.
I got sent away to a farm in Hawaii when I was extremely suicidal which is the complete opposite of how I am now. Someone told me that you have to believe in yourself because you can't sell a product that you don't believe in. So everyday I started to believe in myself, I told myself that “I got this” and I believe in the power of manifestation as well. There’s no point in being negative. The more negative you are, the more bad shit happens to you, that’s what I saw in my life. When I was sad and getting bullied and being down about it instead of choosing to overcome it, I had all this bad stuff happening to me. I had no money and the second I started being more positive I started getting every job I would apply for and I started getting more and more modeling jobs. My whole life has turned around.
And that change occurred at the farm?
Yeah, at the farm in Hawaii.
How old were you were when you went to the farm?
I was 16, about 2 years ago.
And you got sent there?
Ya I got sent there, I ran away from home for 2 weeks so I stole the car and they were freaking out. They didn't know what to do, they thought that I escaped with with my ex to go to a suicide pact and yeah I just needed a lot of help. I was not in the right mind space, I was emotionally unstable as fuck and that's the best way to put it. I learned how to deal with everything on my own, you don't need anyone but your mind. It's mind over matter and that’s the truest fucking shit I can tell anybody.
Is there anyone's music that you couldn't live without?
The Beatles, Björk, and my music. That shit sounds cocky as fuck but that shit inspires me more than anything now.
What would you consider a luxury for yourself?
A luxury for myself is my home and my parents still supporting me how they can. I just turned 18, but from a very early age, I’ve been working since I was 10. My parents taught me that I had to work for what I wanted. They would supply all my essentials, but when I started wanting to dress extra I had to go buy my own clothes and make my own money, baby-sitting and shit ever since I was little. The fact that my parents are still there for me is probably my biggest luxury and a roof over my head that I don’t have to pay for.
And that provided structure for you?
Yeah, just a place to be. I have my own space, a room in the back now and a creative space to do what I want. They taught me to never give up, that nothing is handed to you and you got to fucking work your ass off for what you want and that you can make it happen.
Is there anything that you value most?
My parents and how hard they work. My family started in a one-bedroom apartment and now we live in a two story house with a pool and that’s all because of how hard they worked to make a better life for their kids than what they had.
What it was a problem that you think exists and if you have any solutions to the problem, what would that be?
People’s mindset, what they're taught in school, and what they’re taught by their parents. I love telling some of my younger fans that their parents don't know shit. I’ve had fans come up to me telling me that parents think they're lying about them being suicidal. Your parents don't know shit and don't know how you feel. I want to change how everyone thinks about how you have to think. You don't have to overthink anything, you don't have to let anything affect you. You can be perfectly lucid and be happy within yourself without anything in the world swaying you in any way. I learned that in Hawaii actually, you don't have to take anything personally. It is literally mind over matter, what you choose to ingest out of what you hear is all in your control and has nothing to do with anyone else. That's what I want to change, I want everyone to realize that, and I want everyone that I can touch with my music to know that's what I want them to do.
Where can people find you online?